” Just as talking about Sex won´t make you pregnant,
talking about Death won´t make you dead”
John Underwood
End of life planning
Advance planning for life until the very end is possible at any time.
The central question is – what would you like to happen in this part of your life and what do you definitely not want to happen?
I will do my very best to support you to navigate through all the questions, deciscions and choices. No matter at what point of life or for what reason you would like support – please get in touch.
During the planning process questions may arise that you might never have thought about. Dealing with such topics can be emotionally upsetting and sometimes overwhelming. At the same time, it is relieving to explore your own values, wishes, choices and possibilities and to ensure that these are respected until the very end.
End of life planning also means organizational considerations and “paperwork”. And sometimes also discussing your own wishes with close ones and getting them on board.
With the help of directives and powers of attorney, you can decide who of your close ones will represent you or will be allowed to make decision. Advance planning gives the people involved tools and a guideline that will enable them to support you according to your wishes.
End of life planning takes usually the pressure off everyone and helps to create an atmosphere of loving support, kindness, respect and dignity for all concerned.
Topics I can offer you advice and support on:
- What directives and regulations do I need? What can I do myself and which topics should I not tackle without expert advice?
- Who should be allowed to make decisions for me? What happens if I do not make legally valid provisions and what options are there for making provisions?
- What is important to me with regard to medical issues and measures and what important beyond medical issues? What ideas, wishes and values do i have for my care
- What is important to me when it comes to funerals and how can I make provisions for this?
- How can I create an End of Life Plan?
- What organizational, legal, practical and emotional framework is needed? Who should be involved and what should my “nest for the departure” look like?
How I want to die
„I wanna die at sunset.
I wanna watch the sky change and turn orange and pink and purple
as day dies into night.
I want to hear the wind fluttering through the leaves.
And smell very faintly, nag champa amber incense,
but very faintly because scent can be tough on a dying body.
I wanna die with socks on my feet because I get cold,
and if I die with a bra on, I’m coming to haunt everybody.
I will terrorize you, and that is a threat. Okay?
Hmm. I wanna die in my own bed, in my own home
with my loved ones nearby who are talking amongst themselves
and comforting each other for this very big thing that’s about to happen in their lives.
I wanna die with all of my affairs in order,
so my loved ones have nothing to worry about but their grief after I die.
I wanna die empty, devoid of all of the skill, gift, talent, and light that I carry in this body.
And satiated, full of the richness of this one unique human ride.
And when my loved ones notice that I have released my last breath, I want them to clap.
I want them to clap because I died well, but I died well, only because I lived well.“
Alua Arthur, Death Doula und Gründerin von Going with Grace
Procedure
- 20-minute info call by phone or online (free)
- Frequency and location of meetings by arrangement
- Appointment usually 60 minutes, longer by arrangement